I remember the worst gift I ever received. It was a vacation to the Bahamas that an old girlfriend of mine gave to me. It was one of those too-good-to-be-true ultra-low-cost package “deals” that was exactly that — too good to be true. Our “hotel” was in a Freeport ghetto and it rained incessantly. In fact, the trip was so bad that we ultimately came home after three days.
Speaking of terrible gifts, several years ago, a British charity organization, The Brooke, conducted a study to find out the most unwelcome Christmas gifts.
No, package-deal vacations didn’t make their list, but these ten items did:
1. Bubble bath
2. Bath salts
5. Belgian chocolates
10. Movies you’ve already seen
Gifts Aren’t Supposed to Cost the Recipient Money
Personally, I don’t see the problem with many of those so-called dubious gifts listed above.
Okay, I lied. I would definitely end up regifting knitwear. As for the moisturizer and bath products, well, I’d probably just pass those on to the Honeybee.
Still, I’d argue that it’s not fair to have expectations or requirements for a gift. That’s because, by definition, a gift is supposed to be something that is given to you for free.
You know, it takes some real chutzpah to pooh-pooh a free gift that somebody cared enough to get for you.
I know what you’re thinking: But, Len, you just belittled the gift your girlfriend gave you. Hypocrite!
Well, to paraphrase a famous Frenchman whose name escapes me at the moment: au contraire!
See, I said it takes chutzpah to pooh pooh a free gift. Free. F-R-E-E. As in: “costing nothing.”
Before I could take advantage of the trip my girlfriend gave me, I had to shell out money for the airfare to Fort Lauderdale — and that’s just one of several other expenses that weren’t included in my “all expenses paid” vacation.
Now I know it’s tough coming up with great gift ideas, but it’s important that you don’t out-think yourself by getting a gift that ends up costing somebody money they’ll need to pay down the road.
In addition to the previously-mentioned vacation package, here are three more examples:
Initial Recipient Reaction: “I absolutely LOVE IT, Sweetheart! Who wants to go for a ride!”
Likely Morning-After Musings: “It looks like I’ve been taken for a ride.”
Remorse Meter: The idiot light is ON.
Comments: Every time I see one of those commercials where the happy housewife looks outside the window at her brand new luxury car in the driveway — complete with an over-the-top red bow that would be two sizes too big for King Kong — I have to laugh. So why does hubby have such a smug smile on his face? Unless he paid for that car up front (unlikely) his wife is going to be saddled with making monthly car payments for several years at least. Talk about the gift that keeps on giving.
2. Puppies, kittens and other pets.
Initial Recipient Reaction: “Oh, she’s absolutely adorable!”
Likely Morning-After Musings: “That was my brand new couch, not a scratching post!”
Remorse Meter: Gagging on a hairball.
Comments: Giving someone a pet as a gift is probably the purest example of presumptuousness I can think of. Pets are an imposition on people; they not only require lots of money to keep healthy, they are a huge commitment.
3. Laptop computers.
Initial Recipient Reaction: “Oh, Honey, it’s absolutely perfect!”
Likely Morning-After Musings: “What do you mean it didn’t come with [fill in the blank]?”
Remorse Meter: Keyboard is missing. Press F1 to continue.
Comments: While a laptop computer usually comes with a built-in keyboard (well, at least the good ones do), there are several items that aren’t included. For example, most owners who care about their laptop will probably want to buy a case. Many folks will also realize that they hate using the little touch pad and so they’ll end up having to pay extra for a wireless mouse as well. Those two items alone can end up costing an additional $100 or more, depending on the quality of the accessories.
As for my old girlfriend, although her heart was certainly in the right place at the time, she will always have the dubious honor of giving me the worst gift I ever received — and, no, that has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that she unceremoniously dumped me a couple of years later.
Okay, okay … Maybe just a little.
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